Mummy Monday's #2

February 09, 2016

2 Years today..

8th February 2014, My soulmate proposed to me. 2 Years on I'm sitting next to my fiance listening to our baby snoring in the room next to us. It's been on hell of a ride but we can't wait to see what the future holds! So this is our relationship story from when we met and then our plans for the future. So here goes.

7th Jan 2014. My best friend rang me begging to come out and chill (I was 18). I had just finished work and really couldn't be bothered. But I wanted to hang.. How teenagery. When I was out I met Chris. First impressions: I was Impressed. He was a looker. I must admit- I thought he was waaaaay older. He had a beard. People my age from where I live barely have baby fluff. To find out he was only 18 months older than me was a shock. Me being Naive thought- an older guy.. More mature. How wrong was I?! He is such a childish person!! But anyway, I was in to him. Not for a relationship..

I feel so weird writing this, but I was in it for a one night stand. We both were. I had just came out of a cheating relationship and he had come out of a rubbish one too. We were looking for rebounds. (This has now become an inside joke. Rebound and now engaged with a child.. Go figure)

But anyway- We headed to our local pub had a few and had a really good night. It felt like I had known him for years. I had known his family. His sister was in my year and I also spent time with his younger siblings in school. I knew them well and I felt comfortable with him. Anyone who know's me, know's I have massive trust issues but they vanished. We talked all night and we traded numbers and Facebook's and we went our separate ways and texted all night.

The next day I was back in work and he walked in. How embarrassing, Me sweating and in my work uniform and the guy I've been chatting to waltzed in, like it was nothing. This was a planned attack. We laughed it off as he requested me to chill with him and the others after work. We were planning a get away for a friends 21st. Nothing exotic, just a town and a travel lodge to drink our body weight and party the night away. As a birthday present from me I paid for the Party bus. But again to the anxiety, I can't talk on the phone so Chris offered to do it for me, but they wouldn't take my card details as it wasn't me talking, so out of the blue.. He told them he was my partner. I was shocked.. speechless! We laughed it off but in my head I kept telling myself, It sounds right, Like it was meant to be - Sure enough it was!

Anyway to save money, We bunked up with each other and our mutual friend asked if it was cool me and Chris shared a room. (This was like 4 weeks away!). I agreed. After arrangements, we headed back to the pub.

Few hours later, A few drinks more and We were outside, in the cold having a cigarette and he was just sat there all nervous and I turned to him. I could see it in his face and out of no where I had a massive confidence boost and said 'Just ask me?!' Not really sure what answer he would give me. He looked at me and softly asked 'Will you be my girlfriend?' I obviously accepted. This is where our little love story started.

Fast forward a few weeks, generally discussing marriage. I NEVER WANTED TO GET MARRIED, EVER!! I had seen first hand how my parents marriage had dissolved and I didn't want to get hurt like my parents did. He vowed to change my mind and do whatever it takes to change it. How romantic? Pass me the sick bucket. Anyway he vowed to change my mind by his birthday 5th April. 8th Feb he had changed my mind. I always said if I did accept, I didn't want all attention on me. Like in a restaurant or a public place.

So 8th Feb- We were sat playing GTA on the playstation, sharing a bowl of chips. he then paused the game and got down on one knee (no ring, Poor bloke didn't know my ring size) He proposed in the sweetest way! Speechless I accepted.

10th March- Out shopping and in one day had ordered my engagement ring and had found ourselves a place to live in together. Only a bedsit but better than living with our parents. It was tiny but comfortable and mainly it was ours.

12th March- 2 Blue lines! Major shock!! But our hearts filled with love and excitement. It was fast but it felt right. We started planning for the future, Baby names, a bigger place and my nose in an Argos catalog seeing what we could buy.

12th May- In hospital, in the early pregnancy unit being told our little baby was no longer there. This nearly broke us. We couldn't understand, we couldn't deal with it. This led to arguments of different opinions. We left our bedsit and moved in with my father. I needed to be with support. This also led me to get my tattoo. Picture below.

15th October- Day after my 19th Birthday, 2 Blue lines! This time our hearts didn't fill with love or excitement, rather it was replaced with sadness and hurt. Could we really go through this again! Could we take another strain on our relationship. Was my body going to reject this little baby again.

8th December- Our little JellyBean was kicking about on the screen. We were still scared but our hearts eased watching him kicking around and the little flutter of his heartbeat.

8th Jan 2015- Our first Anniversary- It wasn't extravagant, I was 16 weeks pregnant. We spent the time out at a meal, Talking about how our first year was a massive roller coaster, and how exciting the future was going to be.

6th Feb- JellyBean was a little boy. Each week our fear went down and our excitement grew. Fun fact Noah was going to be called Phoenix but as soon as we found out Noah was a boy, I changed my mind and Noah was chosen.

(Can't Remember the date) I was 30 week pregnant and problems occured. Noah was trying to come early. I was up in hospital have contractions. They gave me tablets which basically gave my body hormones to tell it , it wasn't time just yet. It worked! He held on a little longer.

(Can't Remember the date again) but every week from 32 week, I had to go back for reduced movements. But the little cheeky monkey would move as soon as I was hooked up to the monitor!

13th June- It was starting 10 Days before he was due! Little rascal really didn't want to wait! I was in slow labour.. Which really wasn't slow. I'll do a Birth Story in another post.

14th June 2015, 7.17am Our little Miracle was born. The look on Chris' Face made me realise- I've chosen my soulmate. He was crying and the look of love in his eyes, filled my heart.

25th December - Our second Christmas but First as a family. It was the best day ever (after labour). I didn't think my heart could swell anymore. But seeing my best friend and partner holding our child was the memory I have.

8th Jan 2016- Our Second Anniversary! Our first time away from Noah properly. (We've had nights without him but I was only 10 mins away. This was 45/60 mins away) It was weird being away from Noah but it felt amazing to go on a date and again we shared our favourite memories of our relationship.

The future: Now Nearly 21 and 22, These Years have flown by!! We hope for more children in the future. Our own house, and a wedding! Even our first holiday abroad! I hope the rest of our lives is as amazing as these short 2 years were. Although we haven't been together long, it feels like we've been together for a lifetime! (:

Every couple has an argument, but its your choice to leave it or repair it..