Daddy's Corner | A Page from Daddies book.

So with the new revamp, I will be talking to people with real life experiences and opinions. This post today is from my wonderful partner and father to our beautiful children.

So a bit about him. Chris is 23 and is one of the most fun loving person you will ever meet but is also a protector to all of us. He enjoys playing around with Noah and giving Emily plenty of cuddles and kisses. But does come with a playful side and I often think I have 3 children instead of 2! Let's start the Q and A.

So you have recently become a father to our newest edition Emily, what was the change like for you and was it hard adapting to a new way of life?

At first the change going from one baby to two was hard and learning how to adapt to looking after two with two completely different routines. It was also weird getting used to having a newborn around again. The weirdest part was holding something that was so small compared to Noah and forgetting how to even look after a newborn again. It felt like I had to learn everything all over again.

What would you say was the highs of being a parent and the lows?

The highs speak for themselves, seeing them smile and laugh when you make them laugh. Making silly voices and silly faces. Watching them learn, watching them progress and waiting for their first word and all the different milestones. Nothing really compares to it.

The lows have got to be the sleepless nights, they can be really stressful. That can get you feeling down and worthless, wondering if you are doing everything right? Are they getting everything they need? Knowing if they are ill, especially with the illness that Noah has. Sitting there and all you can do is cuddle them and knowing you cant do anything more to make it better. 

What would you best advice be to a new parent? Or a parent that is struggling?

You will never be fully ready to have a child, you might have the cot, the clothes, the bottles but it doesn't necessarily mean you are mentally or physically ready, you just have to adapt. Be the best parent you can be, You've got to be able to make mistakes to be able to learn from them. 

If you are struggling there is always help around, don't be scared to ask for help. It doesn't mean because you are struggling that you are a bad parent or useless, it just means you are not quite there and that is OK! Take a step back, breathe, chill out and go try again. Not every baby sleeps every night. Just remember you are not alone and you are not a failure. When you are feeling stressed, remove yourself from the situation. You're children can pick up on it.

Obviously Emily is too young, but what has Noah done that has made you proud to be his daddy?

Probably when he took his first steps unaided. He had been trying for so long but just couldn't master it. When he finally did we were both so surprised and over the moon for him. I looked on at him thinking that we taught him to do this and I felt so proud that I helped him achieve such a big milestone. 

How have you dealt with Noah's illness and what advice could you give to parents in the same position?

Who ever really deals with it? You are never really prepared for it. It can be a lot of strain on anyone, there is nothing you could really do but cuddle them and reassure them that everything is going to be alright even if it is not at that moment. It's what they need to hear to feel safe and protected. They need to know you are there for them from dusk till dawn. 

Dealing with Noah and his illness I had to deal with it, reassuring both myself and Noah that is going to be OK. When we first found out about Noah being ill I was scared, terrified even but I needed to keep that to myself as I didn't want Noah knowing that I was scared. I needed to be strong for him and my family. But it was hard.  At times you might even feel it's your fault, even though it isn't. It's uncontrollable and however bleak it might be, always hold on to that little bit of hope. Always reassure you child that no matter what they are going through, no matter how old they are, that you will be there for them night and day, whatever they may need. Always give them hope. 

So can we have another baby?

Nope!

It was worth a try. Thank you to my amazing partner of helping my with this blog post and no doubt he will appear in more posts in the future. He wanted to share his opinion of being a father to children and what he thinks and feels. 

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